Self-esteem and Super-Heroes: Are we harming our children?

July 20th, 2014 · 6:30 pm

Only a hateful parent would knowingly set up their child for failure and disappointment. Is our present culture, however, getting us to do exactly that – set them up for present and future self-destruction?

Whether you are a Christian parent or a non-Christian parent you will find there is good and wise child-rearing advice in the Bible, which states in Proverbs 22:6, “Bring up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” Put another way, ‘From beginning to end, teach your child to think and act in Godly, righteous, and wise ways and they will tend to follow that path all their lives.’

In order for us to do that we must, first, have their respect and the knowledge that we love them. I mean here that they trust us to truly do what is best for them and not to lie to them. Second, we must tell them the truth and actually not lie to them. A child may believe you and trust you when you tell them about Santa Claus (or allow society and merchandisers do it), but eventually they will suffer disappointment and disillusionment when they discover that this wonderful, magical, caring person does not exist, and the World – including their own parents – lied to them about the whole thing. Their joyful hope has been replaced with sorrowful cynicism and the idea that it is okay to lie if it is ‘just for fun.’ Many parents that I have talked to about this have said that a child’s belief in Santa Clause is just harmless, good fun, but I beg you to consider it from a (trusting) small child’s view. The idea of Santa is incredibly wonderful: a hero who loves them and who uses his great powers to bring them gifts! What a life-shattering thing it is for a child to find that their cherished beliefs were lies! If this sort of thing happens enough, will they believe you when you tell them about God?
Third, we must give them hope for the future based on lasting truths, balanced with the facts of our and their shortcomings and failures. We do this slowly (and lovingly) as they mature and their understanding is ready for those truths. We should not puff up their self esteem by giving them a false view of themselves (Proverbs 29:3), their parents, or the world around them. Instead we should let them understand their true worth that is based on the fact that we love them, God loves them, and they were created for a unique and special purpose. They will thus have a realistic world view.

This leads us into the subject of the present culture of over-worrying about our children’s self esteem. Contrary to what they are telling you, the methodology used by many of today’s child psychologists, councilors, and curriculum’s will destroy – not improve – a child’s self esteem. Self esteem (self worth) has to be built on truth (reality), not on fantasy, because when that house of cards falls it will crush the child. The child will (without correction) end up either depressed, angry, or in some degree of megalomania. Witness the rising tide of suicide, murder, and cruelty in our society – especially among our children.

One thing that concerns me the most is the fact that I see parents doing these things to their children – from infancy on – without even realizing it, or, thinking that they are doing the right thing for the child that they love. This is especially true of “Super Hero” worship. “WHOA!”, you say, “Super heroes are just fun make-believe, not having anything to do with worship. (Wow, I can feel the heat of some readers’ anger already as I write this!) Please, just hear me out and see if you agree in the end.

What is a “Super Hero”, those comic book (and now big screen) characters like “Superman”, “Spiderman”, and “Wonder Woman”, among many, many others? What do they represent? We are led to believe they represent goodness and justice, but if we look closely (and, yes, critically) they actually represent the idea that ‘might makes right’. They are also representations of ancient false gods. Compare them to the pantheon of Greek gods, Norse gods, and others. You will find them all to be modernized versions of these same false gods, with the addition of cool-looking modern outfits and gadgets. We will discuss this more later.

Whatever they are, they are what we are encouraging our children to hold up as heroes and role models. They have god-like powers, yet they never mention the one true God or give Him the glory for defeating evil. They speak of what is right, but not of what is righteous. There is a difference, as man has his idea of what is right, but God defines what is righteous, as only a true God can. More on this later.
If you observe – from an objective viewpoint – children at play who are enamored with “super heroes”, you will notice certain tendencies come out. First, the play is about violence and domination. Second, the child puts themselves in the role of the (violent and dominating) “super hero”. [Please note: anyone who knows me will tell you that I have no problem handling bad guys with violence when it is absolutely necessary, so I'm not coming from a “Christians must always be milk toast” position.] And, third, in this role they will treat adults or any other child as the bad guys or the ones needing to be saved by them.

So, what then? We have gone from Santa Claus, who uses his powers to magically deliver gifts to the world’s children to the super hero who uses god-like strength and abilities to fight the evil super-villain, who also possesses god-like strength and abilities. See a spiritual theme here? Either way we lead our small children to believe in a fantasy world that is not based on truth. That all said, we can now discuss why this leads to worship of these god-like beings by our children.

Beings such as these are awe-inspiring. If they can create a sense of awe in us adults (why do the films make so much money?), how much more so in a small child?! Let’s define that term, “awe”, to better understand what it is. My old Webster’s New World Dictionary defines “awe” as:

1. a mixed feeling of reverence, fear, and wonder, caused by something majestic, sublime, sacred, etc.
2. the power of inspiring intense fear, or fearful reverence
3. terror, dread

Additionally, it says this:

“Awe refers to a feeling of fearful or profound respect or wonder inspired by the greatness, superiority, grandeur, etc., of a person or thing and suggests an immobilizing effect. Synonyms are reverence and veneration”

Hey, is it only me, or are we describing the way we should feel about God Almighty? Awe, when applied to someone you feel is good and wish to emulate, evokes worship. When we, as parents, hold up such beings to our children as wonderful we are encouraging our children to worship them, even though we have not said so outright.

Aside from worship, are these imaginary or false beings what we want our children to have as heroes, really? Is it not preferable to have real heroes? Who should their heroes be? Well, a hero is someone who puts their own well being and comfort aside in order to help someone else. This is the definition of love! Shouldn’t YOU be the hero in your child’s life – a real (true), living, breathing, flesh-and-blood, day-in/day-out hero? Who else loves that child more, and is willing to give all for them than you? (Well, there is One – God Himself). Your child needs you to be his or her daily present hero, as you lead them to the Ultimate Hero who will never leave them or forsake them. They do NOT need – and they are indeed damaged by – false heroes born of pagan gods and fantasy. These “heroes” never really save anyone except in comic books and movies. Their self esteem will only be damaged by the eventual realization that they can never become like these fake “super heroes”. They will realize they are weak, impotent, and without hope, unless their heroes are those that love them and teach them to be real heroes to others through the same agency: love.

Telling a child they are “awesome” is giving them worship along with a false hope of who they are. We are not gods, yet the One True God loves us enough that He gave Himself for us, and wants us to be like Him in loving others. This is true heroism, not beating the hell out of someone we view as against us.
Now, speaking strictly to Christians, you are teaching your children idol-worship when you bring these worldly “super heroes” into your home. Idolatry is placing something created above the Creator in worship or veneration. I speak from experience, as I have struggled in the past with elevating the female form, which I see as God’s highest physical creation, above God in my life. We can make any created thing into an idol, and are warned repeatedly in scripture not to do so. Idolatry is viewed very harshly by God. Get these things out of your house and out of your child’s life. Idolatry is hatred against God and hatred against the child you are damaging. Children are a gift of God, and “super hero” worship/adulation is NOT bringing that child up in the fear and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:3).

If we are to be “Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ” (2 Corinthians 10:5), does that not start with our own household? Indeed, look at the Apostle Paul’s view of denominationalism:

Now I beseech you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but that ye be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment.
For it hath been declared unto me of you, my brethren, by them which are of the house of Chloe, that there are contentions among you.
Now this I say, that every one of you saith, I am of Paul; and I of Apollos; and I of Cephas; and I of Christ.
Is Christ divided? was Paul crucified for you? or were ye baptized in the name of Paul?
- 1Corinthians 1:10-13

Why is this relevant? It is relevant because names are important, and in whose name something is done is important. The names of those we exalt are important, so lets look at these “super heroes” names for clues about who they are:

  • Super MAN – he is man, but a SUPERior one, worthy of glory because of his superiority. He does not need or seek God’s help.
  • SpiderMAN – he is nothing as mere man, but when his DNA is corrupted by combining with that of a spider he is now more powerful and better than the way he was created by God. He does not need or ask for help from God.
  • Wonder WOMAN – she is a SUPERior woman, with magical, god-like powers.She glories in her own accomplishments, neither giving glory to or needing help from the One True God.

From the DC Comics wiki site about Wonder Woman:

“Diana is the daughter of Queen Hippolyta, the first child born on Paradise Island in the three thousand year history that the immortal Amazons lived there. The Amazons had been created around 1200 B.C. when the Greek goddesses drew forth the souls of all women who had been murdered by men. One soul was left behind, the one that would be born as Diana. That soul originally belonged to the unborn daughter of the first woman murdered by a man (whom Hippolyta was the reincarnation of). In the late 20th Century, Hippolyta was instructed to mold some clay from the shores of Paradise Island into the form of a baby girl. Six members of the Greek Pantheon then bonded the soul to the clay, giving it life. Each of the six also granted Diana a gift: Demeter, great strength; Athena, wisdom and courage; Artemis, a hunter’s heart and a communion with animals; Aphrodite, beauty and a loving heart; Hestia, sisterhood with fire; Hermes, speed and the power of flight.”

All these characters glorify man instead of God, but not ordinary men, only superior, or evolved men – not normal people like your child. They all have powers that, being physically impossible, suggest help from the spiritual realm. Some, with super-human strength and abilities equate to Zeus and Thor. Wonder Woman is no other than Diana, the Greek goddess of the hunt (see http://paganwiccan.about.com/od/romandeities/p/Diana-Goddess-Of-The-Hunt.htm). Spiderman mixes man with another creature, as do the Hindu gods and goddesses. All these false gods/ super heroes have weaknesses and failings because they are still part human. To paraphrase the “Hulk” in the 2010 movie ‘The Avengers’, they are puny gods, not worthy of your child’s adoration. Alternatively, the one true God is just that: truly God, all powerful, all knowing, all wise, and worthy of our worship. Yeshua the Christ is not just a man infused with god-like powers, He is instead 100% man PLUS 100% God. Now THAT is a super hero! He had the power to instantly destroy all His enemies, but chose instead to give them a chance to repent and come to Him as friends. That time period is limited however, and when he returns He will be taking no prisoners. Those that oppose Him will be destroyed.

Still think “super heroes” are not about things spiritual? If you do some digging you will find much more information along these lines. In simply going to the Dccomics.com website you can see the parade of superhero characters and info about them. For some of you it might be a bit of a surprise, as these characters are now portrayed as being rougher, darker, “bad-asses” than the clean-cut genteel ones they used to be. What are these “super heroes”? They are saviors. Being false gods, they are false saviors, unlike Yeshua the Christ, the ultimate, complete, and final Savior.

Yeshua our Messiah is TRUTH. Spiderman is a LIE. Teach your children the Truth, and they will be a blessing to you in your old age. Teach them lies and they will be a curse unto you.

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Chuck Colson finally gets to rest – we had better get to work!

April 22nd, 2012 · 7:49 am

I found myself to be truly saddened by news of the passing of Chuck Colson. He was a wonderful man who stood for the things of God in a country going to hell.Chuck Colson graduates I will miss his insightful commentary, but know that he fought the good fight and is now with our Lord. To me this is a notice given of the possible passing of a point of no return in this country, as we are losing the voices that stood for sanity and Godliness.

From an article at WND:

In a Feb. 3 video message, he saw the larger issue of the threat to religious liberty.

“We have come to the point – I say this very soberly – when if there isn’t a dramatic change in circumstances, we as Christians may well be called upon to stand in civil disobedience against the actions of our own government,” Colson said in the video.

“That would break my heart as a former Marine captain, loving my country. But I love my God more.”

Colson emphasized that his mind was already made up: “I will stand for the Lord, regardless of what my state tells me.”

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What George Zimmerman’s arrest and trial means for America

April 12th, 2012 · 12:36 pm

I really hate racism, or to be much more accurate – I believe that God loves all people the same (He created them all, didn’t He?), and He expects me to be like Him. Trayvon Twitter pic It is this attitude that God used to bless my air conditioning business for 20 years, as I would happily work for the Hispanics, the “blacks”’, and the Asians – so I was always busy. As for me, Continue reading…

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Obama Declares martial law – Suspends congress and elections.

April 8th, 2012 · 6:18 pm

The following is a fictitious scenario, not news, though it is quite possible that it will indeed happen.
satanic symbolism
As more and more information gets out that Obama is not eligible to be president of the US of A, coupled with many more instances of unconstitutional abuses of power, many people carefully watch the 2012 election results. A rising tide of public sentiment that the election results have (obviously) been tampered with in order to guarantee that the win goes to Obama causes several state legislatures to declare that they will not abide by the official results and will no longer send any tax monies to the federal government until a satisfactory investigation has been conducted.
Continue reading…

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Being Salt

January 15th, 2011 · 11:15 pm

SALT And LIGHT – Who are we in this world, Really?
SALT? Without salt, our bodies shut down – quit – die. These days when I go outside and work I have to take in extra salt or I suffer horrible leg cramps at night. Years ago there was a ‘Star Trek’ episode about a creature that would suck all the salt out of a person – killing them. This is what Satan (and the world system of religion) does to us Christians – Christ’s church, Christ’s bride. He’s killing us.
The Bible says we are to be salt and light. Without light, we are not just blind, but we die, too. The light (God’s TRUTH, The Christ) energizes life – creates food to sustain us. But let’s get back to the salt for now. The Bible says if the salt loses its savor, it’s good for what? NOTHING.

Matthew 5:13
Ye are the salt of the earth: but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be salted? it is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men.

It is thrown out and trampled by men! Sound like what is happening today to the message (our message) of Christ?
What does God mean when he says it loses its savor (taste)?
Let me read a passage:
Continue reading…

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False Christians & Halloween – Are you an Idolater?

October 22nd, 2010 · 9:31 am

Y’know, God made some things really clear so that even those of us that are thick-sculled (like me) could understand them. That’s what the ten commandments were all about – they didn’t list every individual sin that we could perpetrate against God – just the really ‘big’ ones. All the rest fall somewhere under those ten . In fact, the one Jesus told us is the greatest commandment – You will love the Lord (your God) with all your heart and mind [Matthew 22:37-39] – covers it all. God stated this commandment in order to help us keep our relationship with Him, as sin will come between us. It also separates the sheep from the goats, the wheat from the tares. All Christians wrestle with sin in their lives, but there are things that are the ‘big easys’, and He listed them for us. You know: have no other gods before Him, don’t commit murder, don’t commit adultery, etc.

Here’s where we get into offending people, but that’s OK, Jesus was prophesied to be a ‘stone of stumbling and a rock of offense’ and said of Himself that He came not to bring peace, but to set brother against brother, etc. Since we are to emulate Him, here I go:

We are told to test ourselves, to know if we are of the faith. When God said sinners will not enter the Kingdom of God the context is one of continuing in sin without repentance. We may struggle with some sins, but we repent. It is in continuing in sin that we exclude ourselves from relationship with God.Selling out to the world - this is what witches, pagans, and satanists laugh about! Remember the parables of the tares, the sower of seed, and the prodigal son: no relationship = no salvation. Period. So, can someone who murders and continues to murder be saved? Of course not. The same applies with adultery, homosexuality , and, maybe especially, idolatry [1 Corinthians 6:8-10]. First commandment. God made this plain so even the simple-minded could understand it. Just read the Bible and pray for understanding. Do you do that? IF WE LOVE GOD WE WILL SEEK HIM IN PRAYER AND IN HIS WORD [Matthew 6:32-34]. First commandment. You do that and some things will slap you in the face: Idolatry is not loving or seeking after God. Witchcraft is idolatry. Continue reading…

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Coulter, Farah, and Quran burning – You will know them by their fruit

September 9th, 2010 · 9:49 am

Proverbs 12:18 (New American Standard Bible)
There is one who speaks rashly like the thrusts of a sword,
But the tongue of the wise brings healing.

We all like to be comfortable within our own ideologies. We prefer to do what feels good to us much more than doing what will ultimately be the right thing to do, if that right thing makes us uncomfortable or doesn’t contribute to our glory, power, and comfort. For most people this is perfectly fine. For most this is perfectly natural – and to be expected. Unfortunately there is a group of people on this here planet that have been tasked with doing what will get them in trouble, cause themselves hardship, divide them from most other people, and what will cause others to likewise be uncomfortable. Those who belong to this group are collectively known as Christians. Now I’m not talking about the tares, the false Christians, the fakes, the CINOs, the comfy ones…. I mean the committed Christians who took Jesus Christ at His word. So what kind of things did He tell Christians to be doing? Hey, go read the New Testament and you’ll find He said things like ‘speak the truth in love’, ‘love your enemies’, ‘spread the gospel’, ‘repent of your sins’, ‘show mercy as you have been shown mercy’, and such. The Bible also gives us a list of what kind of fruit these Christians will be putting out in Galatians 5: 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.
This brings us to where we can examine the little feud going on between Ann Coulter and Joseph Farah. Actually , it would seem the feud is only on Ann’s side, as she is the one calling names and using invective. In fact, she has said that Farah and those of us who think she is giving tacit approval to homosexuality by speaking at “Homocon” are “fake Christians”. So far, what I have seen of Farah’s response to how Coulter is behaving is based on Biblically sound principles and is evidence of the fruit a Christian is supposed to produce. He has stated the facts and acted in the best interest of Christians, while not acting capriciously to Coulter. Coulter, on the other hand, has resorted to name-calling (used by those who are angry, embarrassed, and who cannot justify their actions), calling Farah “swine” and a “publicity whore”. For the life of me I can’t seem to find this in the Bible as acceptable behavior for a Christian. Farah, in contrast, Continue reading…

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The biggest case of identity theft in America to date.

April 20th, 2010 · 4:58 pm

These days we all must be concerned with identity theft, but there is a current case of identity theft that has and will continue to affect each and every one of us even though we will probably never meet the person it concerns. That person is the President of the United States (POTUS).
IMpeach the IMPOTUS
If you had dealings with a person and found out that they were a pretender – an impostor and NOT who you actually thought you were dealing with – would you keep referring to that person by the name they had stolen (ignoring the fact that they were not who they say they are), or would you demand to know what was going on and cease to do business with them? After watching all the things going on with Barak Obama and doing a little digging, I was forced to conclude that this man is, indeed, an impostor. He is not the POTUS legally, and therefore I can NOT call him by that title. Instead, I will now refer to him as the IMPOTUS, to use a term used by others to mean “I aM President of the United States”, but should mean “IMpostor President of the United States“. This man is not acting as President, he is instead acting as a dictator – trampling the Constitution and ignoring law. For an condensed explanation on why I believe this read the article “Is Obama Stupid and Lazy?” at Western Journalism.

In some ways I pity this man, no matter how anti-American and anti-Christ he is. It is obvious from his speech when there is no teleprompter that he is really not very smart, and also obvious that he is being manipulated by those who put him into office. Here we have what appears to be an American black man, who was raised as a white man and who is being told what to do by white men in order to subjugate all of us – black and white – into slavery. He is in fact, a slave, a puppet of his masters. Here he is, represented as final emancipation of the black community, used by those who hate the blacks and who will eventually use him to embarrass the black people (and all Americans, for that matter). This has already happened in the rest of the world. They are laughing at him – and us. This has also made the IMPOTUS quite impotent concerning world affairs.

Barak Hussain Obama was given a free ride through our school system and our political system. The media, owned by the very people who put him into power, also gave him a free ride. He has been taught Marxist ideology and he has lived the Marxist dream: socialism – you get everything free without having to work for it. No wonder he wants to create a socialist state here, he has been manipulated into believing that Marxism works! Unfortunately he is actually a slave who thinks he is the POTUS. Unfortunately for my black brothers and sisters he is a black slave of white European bankers. My pity for him is tempered, however, by the fact that he is a traitor to our country who is violating his oath to protect our Constitution. He is joined in this treachery by Ms. Pelosi, who obviously knew he was not a natural-born citizen and had 49 of 50 Democratic Party nomination papers changed to drop the wording certifying him as qualified to hold the office under the Constitution (I guess she missed one…). UPDATE: Apparently Hawaii’s (yes, Hawaii!) Section 11-113 of the Hawaii Revised Statutes, requires that the political party of a candidate must provide a statement that the candidate is legally qualified to serve as President under the provisions of the United States Constitution, so Pelosi couldn’t change that one. (See this & and this.)

OUR identity as a nation is being stolen. America, I plead with you to wake up and demand that this IMPOTUS be IMpeached IMmediately!

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First Eddie Eagle program for a group of home-schooled children.

March 22nd, 2010 · 5:56 pm

After convincing the NRA that this was OK even though it was not a public school group, I taught this April 1994 class of youngsters which include two of my children – Crista and Paul. Crista and Paul are now 24 and 22 years old, respectively. First home-school Eddie Eagle class

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Pain… and the best laid plans of men (this man) -updated

February 23rd, 2010 · 11:18 am

I am one of those who has not been a stranger to pain in my life, while at the same time I have been spoiled by being healthy and physically active. During the last few years, however, I have occasionally been bed-ridden with a back problem that is accompanied with almost unbearable pain. This is the case at the moment – I can do nothing but lay here and hope and pray that my vertebra get back in place soon. For me it is a time of not only feeling powerless and useless, but a feeling of being trapped, much like claustrophobia. Yesterday morning, unable to move, I was fighting rising panic. And then there is the fear of another back spasm with its blinding pain…
During such times I must trust God that He will bring good even from this – perhaps from writing, doing research, and from inner reflection about my relationship with and reliance upon Him. It is also a time to realize that when I am doing just fine I need to remember and pray for those in difficult circumstances.

UPDATE, Thursday, March 4th: I’ve been working this week – rigged a cart with a lift to help me move equipment. It has been a little painful, but getting better. Two more weeks available to get it in shape before I go parachuting. I’ll brace up just in case, but if the past is any indicator – all should be well by then. Looking forward to stepping out into the wind!

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