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Self-esteem and Super-Heroes: Are we harming our children?

Sunday, July 20th, 2014

Only a hateful parent would knowingly set up their child for failure and disappointment. Is our present culture, however, getting us to do exactly that – set them up for present and future self-destruction?

Whether you are a Christian parent or a non-Christian parent you will find there is good and wise child-rearing advice in the Bible, which states in Proverbs 22:6, “Bring up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” Put another way, ‘From beginning to end, teach your child to think and act in Godly, righteous, and wise ways and they will tend to follow that path all their lives.’

In order for us to do that we must, first, have their respect and the knowledge that we love them. I mean here that they trust us to truly do what is best for them and not to lie to them. Second, we must tell them the truth and actually not lie to them. A child may believe you and trust you when you tell them about Santa Claus (or allow society and merchandisers do it), but eventually they will suffer disappointment and disillusionment when they discover that this wonderful, magical, caring person does not exist, and the World – including their own parents – lied to them about the whole thing. Their joyful hope has been replaced with sorrowful cynicism and the idea that it is okay to lie if it is ‘just for fun.’ Many parents that I have talked to about this have said that a child’s belief in Santa Clause is just harmless, good fun, but I beg you to consider it from a (trusting) small child’s view. The idea of Santa is incredibly wonderful: a hero who loves them and who uses his great powers to bring them gifts! What a life-shattering thing it is for a child to find that their cherished beliefs were lies! If this sort of thing happens enough, will they believe you when you tell them about God? (more…)

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